COVID, Musings, News

COVID Diary Day 7: The Rules of Love Have Changed

Tinder recently announced that it will let its users get free access to Tinder Passport, allowing users to swipe from everywhere around the world and find quarantine buddies during this hard time of COVID-19 (The Verge).

This is an interesting shift in Tinder’s use case, where users previously use Tinder as a meat market for warm bodies within close distance range. Now Tinder could pivot to become a platform for soul connections and worthwhile conversations (after you pass the visual round mutually, of course.)

IDK. Maybe. Or maybe this is just me being over-optimistic about things.

The way I see it, this pandemic could ultimately awaken our dormant romanticism and lead humanity back to monogamy (as it had in the past).

If you think about it, it makes perfect sense. When you have the scarcity of time, would you rather spend it with a hookup, or to catch up with your dearest friends?

When we looked at scientific evidence, I have long believed in the unnatural decision for humans to be monogamous. Our genetic DNA is more similar to bonobos than with gibbons; and the former have indiscriminate sexual relationships than the latter, who bond and mate with one partner for life.

My younger self would argue that on the evolutionary perspective, survival of the fittest meant being able to spread your genetic imprint to as many sexual partners as possible. Marriage doesn’t seem like a good idea for Darwinists (BBC).

I was dead wrong.


We can make the argument in a more moral or religious perspective, although I’ve never been the preachy type. Instead we can let history do the talking. Nature has a way of creating natural circuit breakers to control excess–such as diseases. Proliferation and spread of diseases (STDs, viruses, etc.) might have caused human species to limit their sexual partners.

Either way, although not natural physiologically–pairing up made an effective strategy to ensuring the human species’ survival.

Often, economic boom also means an increase of divorces and less incentive to get married. When the world is full of adventure of opportunity, we get the paradox of choice with the multitude of options right at our fingertips. Interestingly, it is in times of disaster and hardships often follow with a rise in marriages and babies. Probably it is during these times that we shift into the scarcity perspective. People recalibrate their focus from career and wealth to more substantive relationships.

Whether or not this COVID-19 event could lead to more marriages and a baby boom, only time will tell.

Would you want to be locked down after this lockdown?


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